Inspired by one of my favorite Personal Development bloggers Steve Pavlina, who recently published an article titled How to be a Man; Iâ€™m following up with my own take on what I believe takes to be a man – particularly in a society like ours where most of the time the idea of being a â€œrealâ€ man falls between the amount of money he has or women whether or not his good with the ladies. Sad but true.
So what does it mean to be a man today? How can men in the Caribbean consciously express their masculinity with becoming cold-hearted on one handâ€¦or a wimp on the other? In the next week or two I will be posting on what are the most loving ways for a man to live and express himself.
The first way Iâ€™m going to touch on is the aspect of Making Real Decisions.
Any man should understand and respect the power of choice, and lives a life of his own creation. He knows that life stands still when he fails to make decisions and flourishes when he chooses a clear path for himself or his family.
When a man makes a decision, he opens the door he wants and closes the doors he doesnâ€™t want. For example, when most men decide to pursue a beautiful woman; he will do almost anything to win her heart â€“ knowing clearly there is no guarantee heâ€™ll win her over. But a man doesnâ€™t need such guarantees; he simply enjoys the sense of certainty that comes for opening that door.
A man doesnâ€™t require the approval of others. Heâ€™s will to follow his heart wherever it leads him. A quality which is lacking in most Caribbean men â€“ fearing that their piers might disapprove of their decision and think of them differently. When a man is following his heartâ€“centered path, itâ€™s of little or no consequence if the whole world is against him.