In a recent post, I talked about how we should all follow our dreams, and ignore all the negative thoughts surrounding us.
So what about those external negative factors â€” the naysayers? Those friends and family and people in authority who tell you to stop dreaming, to be realistic, to take a more traditional path? Those who tell you that you canâ€™t do something?
You have to learn to block them out. Or, if you have a contrarian attitude about life, learn to let those naysayers fuel your determination â€” make it your desire to prove the naysayers wrong!
How do you block out naysayers? The same way you block out doubts and negative thoughts in your own head: you squash them. OK, donâ€™t literally squash another person. But when they say something negative, or something that is likely to cause doubts in your head, take that thought (in your head) and squash it. Then replace it with something positive.
If someone is constantly bringing you down and constantly making you feel like you canâ€™t do something, you might consider removing them from your life. This sounds drastic, and it can be, but the truth is that having a life full of negative people will drag you down to their level, and stop you from doing what you want to do.
Iâ€™m not saying you should give up all your friends or never see your parents again (if theyâ€™re the naysayers), but I am saying that you should pick your friends carefully. Instead, surround yourself with positive, encouraging people. If you have friends like that, you can do anythingâ€¦take my word for it.