Often weâ€™re told at a very early age that we have to suffer now â€“ give up want we want â€“ so that we can succeed later in life, that in order to save we must prepared to make some sacrifices. Give up instant gratification to get delayed gratification down the line.
But you can do both, as I mention in the opening paragraph of this post â€“ you must prepared to make some scarifies.
Forever since I can remember, I was confused about this, which sent me two different messages:
1.Pleasure later. The first message was that in order to be successful, in order to build wealth and make something of yourself, you have to delay gratification. As my mom will always say â€œyou canâ€™t have your cake and eat.â€ â€“ I never really understood what she meant by that up until I started living on my own.
2.Pleasure now. The second message was usually from other sources on happiness, but sometimes from the same source: enjoy life now, while you can, because itâ€™s short and you never know when your last day will come. Live every day like itâ€™s your last.
The funny thing is, I agree with both messages. And if continue to read this post, youâ€™ll see that I touch on both messages. Live sparingly and simply! But also enjoy life.
Liuda (fiancÃ©e) and I have come to a point in our lives, where weâ€™ve decided to make the all necessary sacrifices in other for us to own our home; so weâ€™ve reconciled the two ways of life into one: Live life now and enjoy it to the fullest â€” without destroying our future. we find ways to enjoy life completely, utterly, maximally â€¦ that donâ€™t cost our future very much.
Here are some tips for actually living that philosophy:
Find free or cheap pleasures. Sparingly does not have to be boring or restrictive â€¦ if you use your imagination. Be creative and find ways to have fun â€” loads of it â€” without spending much money. Have a drink-ups at friends homes, go to the beach, board games, take field trips , make art, bake cookies 🙂 â€¦ there are maybe a hundred of different things you could come up with a few hundred more. Make a list of simple pleasures, and enjoy them to the maximum.
Make simplifying fun. Iâ€™m a big fan of simplifying my life in every way, from decluttering to creating a simple lifestyle. And to me, this is fun. I get rid of stuff (and possibly make money selling it) and have a blast doing it.
Rediscover whatâ€™s important. Too often we spend tons of money, shopping, going out, watching television, eating out â€¦ without really enjoying life. And when we stop to think about it, we never have time for the things we really want to do. Well, thatâ€™s probably because your life is filled with things that arenâ€™t very important to you. Instead, take a few steps back and really think about whatâ€™s important to you. Then get rid of the other (expensive) stuff, and focus on whatâ€™s important.
Make people a priority. I thought I’d give it a little more emphasis, as this is related to the above point. If you give â€œstuffâ€ a priority â€” stuff like gadgets, nice furnishings, nice clothes, shoes, jewelry, etc. â€” then you will spend a lot of money. But if you make people a priority â€” the people you love most, you close friends and family â€” you donâ€™t need to spend a dime to enjoy life. Talk about books youâ€™ve read, movies youâ€™ve watched, new things going on in your life, your hopes and dreams. And make time for your kids or your significant other â€” really spend time with them, doing things that donâ€™t cost money.
Track your successes. It doesnâ€™t really matter how you track your success â€¦ you can use gold stars for creating a new simplifying habit, or use a spreadsheet chart to track your decreasing debt and increasing savings or investments. Tracking is a great way to not only provide motivation, but make the process of changing fun.
Reward yourself. And in order to make it more fun, celebrate every little success! Set rewards for yourself (hopefully not too expensive!) along your path to success.
Find time for yourself. Make time every day, and every week, to spend time alone. It really gives more meaning and enjoyment to your life, rather than rushing through life with no time to think, to breathe. You need some “me time” everyday.