Sometimes we can be so busy with our everyday jobs, and our personal goals, and changing the world, that we have very little to spend with our kids.
I can remember while attending Saint Maryâ€™s Academy there was this very good friend of mine – who came from a wealthy family where his parents could buy him anything he wanted. But for some reason he always seemed down and sad. So, one day I asked him â€“ why are you always looking to so sad? You know what he told me? He told me that the reason is so sad, is because the mother had gone off to the US to live. Confused, I asked him â€“ what is his talking about? Because that same morning I saw his mother driving by? He said this is just my biological mom, but my real mom is our maid Jennifer.
I raised up in a relatively poor home, where my mom (a single parent) had to work two jobs in other for us to get by. But if one thing my mom made sure she did, is to have some quality time with each of us. She didnâ€™t have a lot money to buy all the fancy things, but she showed us love in the little things she did, and thats what matters in lifeâ€¦trust me.
Well, just to clarify, I donâ€™t kids. 🙂 But here are some ways Iâ€™ve found to connect with them on a regular basis:
Make a date. Set a weekly date with each child, so you are ensured some alone time with them. For example, I try to spend 2 hours every Saturday afternoon with my nephews.
Read with them. Iâ€™m a big fan of this. Read to them every day if possible. Itâ€™s great quality time, and one of the best things you can do to help them in life.
Play with them. Donâ€™t be afraid to be a kid with them. Play video games, watch cartoons, play board games, have pillow fights, make a fort, play superheroes. Play at their level â€” donâ€™t expect them to play at yours.
Talk to them after work. When you get home from work, instead of sitting down and watching TV, or taking a nap, or finding some other way to veg out after a long day at work â€¦ take the extra effort to sit down and talk with your kids about their day.
Just snuggle. Every now and then, just pull your child to you and hug them. Snuggle, be affectionate, and squeeze them tight. That kind of physical intimacy is important â€” and the day will come when they donâ€™t want to snuggle with you anymore. Take advantage of it now.
What are your ways of connecting with your kids? Let us know in the comments.
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