One of the traps that’s easy to fall into is filling your life with too many incompatibilities – places, objects, activities, people, and circumstances that we just don’t mesh with the person you’re on the inside. Not too long ago a good friend of mine realized that he had surrounded himself with so many incompatibilities – in his relationships, job and activities. Shame to say, but a lot of us are just tolerating certain aspects in our daily life – even if we know that it’s not who we’re inside.
When your external reality is out of sync with your inner self, your inner self will refuse to give in to it. This creates the feeling of wanting to escape your circumstances. You’ll fantasize about quitting you job, moving out, ending a relationship(s). You may feel powerless to make big changes, but deep down you’ll still sense a strong desire to “get out†and leave parts of your reality behind.
Like my friend, it’s easy to lose years of your life while surrounded by incompatible energies. In fact this problem is so common that some people just consider it normal. They figure it’s normal to dread going to work or to feel disconnected from the people around them. This may be common, but it certainly isn’t a healthy situation.
Look at the different parts of your life — your career, health, relationships, spiritual practice, daily habits, and finances — and ask yourself these questions, “Is this really me?†do you hear some no’s? How long have you been tolerating these incompatibilities?
Some people think it’s a good thing to tolerate the parts of life they don’t like. I think personally that’s stupid. Tolerance isn’t acceptance. Tolerance is resistance.
When you fill your life with energies you must tolerate, you prevent yourself from attracting what you really want. The more incompatibilities you tolerate in your life, the fewer compatibilities you’ll be able to attract and enjoy. Keep this up for a few years, and you’ll be drowning in a life that feels totally wrong for you.
What bothers you about your life? What are you tolerating right now? I’m challenging you to stop tolerating your life. Kick out the incompatible parts to create the space for a life you’re able to love and accept completely.
