One of the traps thatâ€™s easy to fall into is filling your life with too many incompatibilities â€“ places, objects, activities, people, and circumstances that we just donâ€™t mesh with the person youâ€™re on the inside. Not too long ago a good friend of mine realized that he had surrounded himself with so many incompatibilities â€“ in his relationships, job and activities. Shame to say, but a lot of us are just tolerating certain aspects in our daily life â€“ even if we know that itâ€™s not who weâ€™re inside.
When your external reality is out of sync with your inner self, your inner self will refuse to give in to it. This creates the feeling of wanting to escape your circumstances. Youâ€™ll fantasize about quitting you job, moving out, ending a relationship(s). You may feel powerless to make big changes, but deep down youâ€™ll still sense a strong desire to â€œget outâ€ and leave parts of your reality behind.
Like my friend, itâ€™s easy to lose years of your life while surrounded by incompatible energies. In fact this problem is so common that some people just consider it normal. They figure itâ€™s normal to dread going to work or to feel disconnected from the people around them. This may be common, but it certainly isnâ€™t a healthy situation.
Look at the different parts of your life â€” your career, health, relationships, spiritual practice, daily habits, and finances â€” and ask yourself these questions, â€œIs this really me?â€ do you hear some noâ€™s? How long have you been tolerating these incompatibilities?
Some people think itâ€™s a good thing to tolerate the parts of life they donâ€™t like. I think personally thatâ€™s stupid. Tolerance isnâ€™t acceptance. Tolerance is resistance.
When you fill your life with energies you must tolerate, you prevent yourself from attracting what you really want. The more incompatibilities you tolerate in your life, the fewer compatibilities youâ€™ll be able to attract and enjoy. Keep this up for a few years, and youâ€™ll be drowning in a life that feels totally wrong for you.
What bothers you about your life? What are you tolerating right now? Iâ€™m challenging you to stop tolerating your life. Kick out the incompatible parts to create the space for a life youâ€™re able to love and accept completely.