My good friend Garth will soon be walking down the aisle, and over the past few weeks Iâ€™ve had the opportunity to observe all his preparations â€“ trips to the tailor, talking with different caterers, etc. What Iâ€™ve also observed the amount to spending he has done already – and the wedding is still over a month away. He says nothing, but I believe he never anticipated that a wedding could cost so much money and itâ€™s beginning to stress him out.
Soon Liuda and I will be going down the marriage road, but unlike my friend Garth – weâ€™re aware that happiness and hopefulness of any wedding can also be stricken with the jitterness from bridal budget. Too many times Iâ€™ve seen here in Dominica, brides and grooms create elaborate plans that donâ€™t truly reflect the real cost of wedding and that the end causes stress.
Here are five tips I believe anyone who is getting married on a limited budget to avoid getting bridal budget jitters â€“ whether the wedding in two day, two weeks or two months away.
Balance your bridal budget. If you already have a budget in place, go back and start cutting out expenses to give yourself a 25 percent cushion for unexpected costs. This will eliminate the stress that comes with aiming too high with your budget. You will also erase future stress in you knowing that you have planned for unexpected costs. Also you can get friend or family members whose great at finance (and married) to help.
Let Others Help With wedding Expenses. If you don’t have the money you thought you would have for your wedding, delegate one of those items on your budget to a friend or family member. Brides are always being asked, “What do you want for a wedding gift?” But remember: Don’t assign an item on your budget list (flowers, cake, etc.) unless you are asked first. Please donâ€™t ask your friends to help with finances for you wedding â€“ thats just not good manners â€“ wait to be asked.
What are your real budget goals? Is your budget designed to impress friends, family members and co-workers? This is your wedding, and an over-stressed bride can ruin a happy occasion – erase those peer pressure expenses and focus on being relaxed to look your best, without the worry lines and sleep deprivation that comes with bridal budget jitters.
Simplify. Having too much on your planning plate can increase the stress levels of any bride and groom. Reception buffets are less expensive and stressful than formal sit-down luncheons or dinners. Just keep it simple, and watch those bridal jitters disappear.
Finally, stay on track. Now that you’re in smart budget mode for your wedding, every time you revisit your bridal budget is a new opportunity to find a fast way to eliminate an unnecessary financial expense. If you can manage to do this, you wonâ€™t start this new chapter in your life suffering from bridal budget stress. Relax. Enjoy your marry life. 🙂 Celebrate.
Photo by:kamele.com – A Maui Wedding Hawaiian Style.
Congratulations Chris and Liuda! And good advice too. Ruth and I got married on a shoestring and used what we saved as down-payment on our first house. We have been happily married over 35 years now. One of my sisters actually sold her retirement home in Florida to finance an extravagant wedding for her daughter, who was divorced shortly thereafter. We saw nearly the same thing happen to a friend of our daughter’s; the girls parents must have spent tens of thousands on a wedding for a marriage that lasted less than a year.
Our own wedding and reception were simple and modest, but enjoyed by all. And our shared goals strengthened our marriage, I believe.
Congratulations Liuda, Garth, Chris and everyone who’s involved in planning all these weddings. The wedding planning and the actual ceremony can be stressful and it’s sometimes hard to avoid the huge expense that can be incurred.
I was drawn to seek out information for a friend in the same situation who was very stressed by her wedding. Being a natural health and wellness kind of person, I looked for easily obtained herbs and essential oils to recommend for her complete relaxation.
I turned to a colleague of one of my blogging friends that writes for a health and wellness blog and it so happened that she was had just started to write an article on the subject of stress.
Her essential oils for relaxation and article is now in published as: “tips and tricks to relieve stress boost moods” which you’re welcomed to share amongst your friends.
It is said that something of beauty is a joy forever so too is something as useful as these de-stress tools, tips or tricks.